Having both the awareness to heal, and the willingness to do the work... is not an easy task.
I experienced this first hand in my early 30’s. Back then, my life was a real roller coaster and the worst part was: I never understood why. Until one day I hit rock bottom, after calling off my engagement with a man I thought I knew inside out.
I uncovered a lot of shocking lies about his life, which led to a horrible break up and depression. I locked myself in my bedroom for weeks and couldn’t stop watching dark depressing shows on Netflix, whilst crying non-stop. I shut down, stopped responding to messages and phone calls, and I cut off all communications with everyone.
Feeling lost, I ended up signing up for life coaching sessions to learn about my pattern; the root cause and how to actually create the life I wanted. Surprisingly, this is what I discovered: I had different love languages from my mom and thought she didn’t love me; so I was looking for validation from men to feel that ‘mother’ love. Hence, I said yes to any men who wanted to marry me and chase me because then, I felt loved. This was exactly how I attracted emotionally unavailable men in my life. Through the sessions, I released the trauma, I re-parent myself, I created a new chapter of my life.
I started attracting the things that I manifested and I was full of joy, but then I learned that life will never stop testing you. Two years later, I went into depression again, losing 3 kg in a week. It was the time when I moved to Singapore to work for a unicorn startup tech company, spending 18 hours in the office daily and having very little sleep. I got anxiety, troubled breathing, couldn’t sleep and couldn’t eat anything. Everything felt foggy. I started questioning my passion and purpose. Took me a while to figure it out, but I finally knew I wanted to be a life coach. The reason was simple: so I can help people (like me) to get unstuck and stop feeling lost in life, career, and relationships.
Now, I can say that I help individuals to feel content, inspire couples to come back to love; and train high-achieving leaders to perform and collaborate confidently.
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